Difficult Friends : Toxic Friendships – People You Must Avoid

I have been evaluating my life, my family, myself, my friends. After looking at the people that are on many of my ‘friends lists’ everywhere, I have some serious evaluating to make. Who am I? Who are you? Most of all: WHO ARE WE, as friends?

While I love having many ‘friendships’ in my life. What ones are real? Which friendships are true? What friends love me.. for ME?

That is a lot to digest, all in a tiny sentence, isn’t it?

This is a spin off an article that I read, but I have to take my own path on it. I LOVE this article!

If you are in a relationship – love OR friendship, there are angles to every (EVERY) relationship, including friendship. Sometimes, we have to evaluate our surroundings.

You might be thinking… what am I; a cougar, or a human? Regardless of what or who you are, you need to protect you, protect what you are, protect your mind..soulheart..body, and well being. We cannot carry on our own lives by living our OWN lives for those ‘around us’.

Entering into a friendship opens the door for hurt and harm; a harmful friend or a toxic friendship can be one of life’s hardest relationship tribulations to forgive and forget. Toxic friends often come back to haunt you for a long time.

There are nine main types of toxic friends–those people whose friendship hurts you eventually. Knowing the categories of toxic friends helps you avoid them. Unfortunately, though, becoming friends is risky and there is never a guarantee you will not be hurt by a toxic friend.

The User as a Toxic Friend:
This person only has friends as long as he/she can use them for some purpose or goal of his/her own. This person could be the most harmful of toxic friends.

The Betrayer as a Toxic Friend:
Nothing hurts more than a friend who betrays you. The betrayer is truly a toxic friend.

The Control Freak as a Toxic Friend:
The control freak is a friend as long as she/he is in control. The control freak often seems to be helping you. Refuse that help or break that control and find out what toxic friendship really means.

The Judge as a Toxic Friend:
Ever judgmental, ever critical, this friend can erode your self-esteem. The judge is a fault finder. You can rarely do anything completely right with this toxic friend.

The Promise Breaker as a Toxic Friend:
This person rarely does what he says he will do. If you have a date, your toxic friend is often a no-show. A general lack of dependability makes this person a toxic friend.

Live your life for you. Live your life FOR YOU and for no one else. If those surrounding you cannot accept you, then thou shall not have the pleasure of knowing the real you and your real surroundings.

Enjoy YOU.

Love YOU.

Love YOU and enjoy YOU… every second, of every day. Regardless.

If you have to live your life wondering who will say what about you.. then guess what; it’s not a relationship worth living.

Please feel free to re-tweet. Please feel free to express on Facebook… Just promise me one thing: Be who YOU are. Regardless.

PS: I am still trying to live by my own words. Please bear with me.


  1. I agree with you, and you have some excellent points. I was actually thinking about this earlier this week. Speaking from personal experience, toxic friends will hinder you in life unless you weed them out of your life. I can honestly say that life is more simplistic by not having these kind of friends in my life. :yahoo:

  2. Great article! Unfortunately, I can relate to both sides. I have had several toxic friends and have BEEN a toxic friend, at times. I think we can only attract friends that are as healthy as we are. So, the healthier I have become, the healthier my friendships have become.

  3. Michelle Jadaa says:

    its sometimes hard but necessary to stop and take stock,our work, our family,our marriage,our goals and what is really important enough for us to spend parts of this all too short life energy on.It takes strength to stand still in the middle of a wave but it is essential.
    So many are just swept along by their lives with no control and no time to appreciate anything:)